Could it be related to lack of self love and self appreciation? Is he upset? We done everything possible any one in a serious relationship would do. If you can do this, his behavior can change too. If ot, break it off completely, without staying friends. Is it wise or unnecessary? Is there even a way for him to realize this himself? (AmE) I will reply to your email soon. Want to join in? I forgot to mention something really silly, but for some reason it’s been bothering me a lot. But he stopped the terms of endearment and in both “headed for relationship” and “FWB” it’s been seemingly only me suggesting times to get together. At first, I thought I didn’t have any problem with that, but now I am becoming very insecure because I think he maybe wants to meet other women, because he is very sociable and likes women (and flirting) a lot. We made plans for the whole week and at the last minute he canceled again but I was feeling weird because he wasn’t texting as much as before. Ok, so I met this guy at work, I have kids he does not and he is also younger than me. The 1 and a half months we spend FWB we did it like daily, then we used to go get breakfast, he introduced me to his friends my friends know him too. 2. I’m not going to lie, I was hurt; felt lied to like where did this come from? After I left to the other end of the world, he still contacted each other, mostly dirty. Hi Lisa, We have never gone out anywhere although he has mentioned last weekend while out somewhere that he wished he had of been able to give me more notice to get a sitter so I could have gone out with him and his mates that night. Then he accuses me of catching feelings. Since then he’s been calling me, messaging me, wanting to see me. The day after we were talking and then he started to take longer to reply to my messages and read them and didn’t reply. If it’s love feelings, they can never do harm. Because I can’t offer stability, and he told me he didn’t want to wish for me once I leave for my home country in August, he suggested we give FWB a try. Thanks, Jessica. He may feel really upset about both his good friends keeping something this big from him, and his reaction may cause harm to your new relationship. The crossroad between a breakup (from something that hasn’t even begun) and a committed and passionate relationship. So I had a major crush on this guy since 5th grade. He took me off all his social network. After about 5 weeks with everything going phenomenal between us and what I was lead to believe would be a relationship as soon as it could officially be, I started feeling as though I’d be ok with people knowing about us at some point not in the immediate future but not in the far off future either and I asked him how he felt about it. So I HAD a fwb at work. I said before we got back together I told you I don’t want to make up to break up cycle. he then came back and apologized for disappearing saying his mind wouldnt let him move on from his last relationship. Sincerely, Your Name Please help me put my head straight about what he could be thinking…?? After that weekend things got complicated he started writing me more but when I started doing the same thing he pushed me back. Anyways, he and I had sex a few times now. This is it – this is who he is – you have to decide whether you can love him unconditionally – or not. I think that if it’s been a year since you’ve started being together, and he still doesn’t want a relationship (although you already have one), nothing will change if you keep doing the same with him. We hadn’t ever hooked up before until a couple of weeks ago. I wanted my pillowcase & his tax preparer & he wanted his scarf so we agreed Sun (Jan 8th) to meet up to exchange. Yup, January 7th 2017! Then I asked the forbidden question, I asked for more, I wanted more, and then he flipped, said I was desperate that five months isn’t enough to know someone and why didn’t I just leave things the way they were. He has a Gf whom he has had issues with for at least 10 years. I think that he wants to be with you, and has feelings for you, but just like he said – he is not ready to be a step dad. The mental state he has is very tiring – he has ptsd and social anxiety which makes him tend to “shut down” and disappear a lot. His single im single too. When talking about him relocating he’s made it a point to say he isn’t dating someone 2 hours away. He often talked about our future. You can do better. At work, at his house, in his truck. Thanks, It seems to me that he had true feelings for you, but fear of getting hurt is keeping him from committing to you. We are too emotionally attached since both have been involved in each other’s lives for a while now. Why?? Otherwises he’s still affectionate & talkative, says “what I got you got”, I get dressed right after meanwhile he lays in bed like he wants to cuddle & talk, he still walks me out to my car & watches till I drive off outta sight, he gives these long hug embraces, kisses, asks me to text him I’m home, he still has some of my belongings laying around his house when he had the opportunity in October to put my belongings in a bag for me. So after telling me all this a few days ago, we had sex, then I went back to my life (I ALWAYS stay the night and have breakfast). Obviously you are great friends and that’s the foundation of the best relationships, and where true love begins. A friend of mime knows about him and apparently his friends know about me. When he moves, his feelings can change. Pressure and fear always ruin everything. We still would keep on with our weekly visits no big deal, he also became one of my favorite people. & then a break up out of the blue. But, I see a softer, vulnerable side to him and I enjoy spending time with him. Do I let go because I love myself or do I hold onto this because I love him? The stress you’re feeling is because you’ve imagined a certain future and now you won’t feel o.k until this imagined future happens the way you want it. If you want to text him – just text him. Hi, im new to this FWB. And for me that changes things. But more than understanding why it is that he doesn’t know what he wants, you need to consider how you respond … He’s told me before that he has trust issues and I also know that his ex will occasionally text him and although he says he doesn’t initiate contact with her, he almost always responds. I’ve mentioned to him that this is been the most dysfunctional xxx”ship” I’ve ever been involved in and it makes me feel bad abt myself. He thanks me & declines. He’s a jerk. Lifewire - How to Set an out of Office Automatic Reply in Outlook I get a text around 6pm saying “Sorry, I left my phone at my friend’s house and just got it back.” I speak to him later & he’s claiming to be sick. This was at the very beginning of things. We still communicate a lot every week, and he have talked about our future in the sense that I developed a physical problem that might not let me have kids and the fact that he might never find anyone as he doesn’t believe in marriage, so for now we rely on each other with these feelings of love and nurture until who knows when. He always says good morning as soon as he wakes up and he always says goodnight. But you two have full control on how this is will turn out, and how positive your relationship will be, whether right now or after it ends (if it ends…who knows?) I want to feel on top again before i trusted him to be my bf, how do u know he wants for keeps? I completely agree with you. Just ask what’s going on, where you stand with each other, what his expectations are, and do it when you are calm, relaxed, and accusation/suspicion-free. At the beginning everything was great, but after a while I told him I couldn’t do this anymore because Im not used to it. Ah!! When I look back to find what I did to make him want a real commitment, here’s what I found: 1. He is great, treats me like a lady and teases me that I’m such an independent lady. We both apologise and we just cannot leave it alone. Tips to Answer “If there’s anything else you’d like us to know”: 1. No guts no glory. I told him I don’t believe in soul mates, that you get the most out of life by learning and doing as you go. The others told me a lot of what he said about me. After 2 weeks we started FWB thing. Now this is where I get confused…he’s always telling me how he wants me to feel 100% comfortable with him and to let go and that’s what I want too, but I will not feel like that if I have constant worries about STDs. I knew he smokes too so randomly asked him, we meet in for like half hour and smoked up. That Saturday (Jan 7th) he basically says he was just about to text me before I came over & that he doesn’t know. I’m horrible with the “rules” of this. Yes, it’s not respectful, but it’s probably because if fear. They know you’re seeing someone and hey know my name? We started exchanging messages and we started hooked up again even though I’m in a relationship with someone else. I go out with other guys but I don’t hook up with them, he is the only I have sex with. I’m content at the moment. That was about a year ago and neither of us have mentioned it again, we’re going on 2 years now and I want more but I’m scared to lose what I have by bringing it up again. I have a busy, fulfilled life already. I texted him and asked him again. [In this paragraph, write a short explanation about why your manager can't attend or, if applicable, why neither of you can attend. I was thrilled. He told me that he misses me while we are intimate. I just feel like we could actually have a relationship.. As a quick disclaimer: obviously, there are things in life that SHOULD bother us. If I flirted with a guy he’d stand beside me. If you don’t want something serious right now, than don’t. If you have real feelings for him, I think that you could get hurt by just standing aside as he tried to reconcile with his ex. Kyndal, Hi, so I have been FWB with my friend since Jan 2016, and suddenly, the whole thing went messy and upside down this May. Do you not fit his standards for a wife? This summer I asked twice if this is all he wanted or saw it ever being. He calls me says we’d have to reschedule because he has to help his mom with the heater (I’ve NEVER been over with the heater on). What does that mean? We’re not suggesting that you affix cold, hard numbers to your presence at your company (you're always worth more than a dollar amount. I thought when he said to expect less he meant we won’t see each other a lot. Afterwards he said “I think you’re great” and kissed my forehead. If there is something more – a friendship, or any other communication other than being naked – casual sex is an illusion, not a reality. We have been seeing each other almost regularly at least once a month ever since. Calm down first. Good things. We’ve had arguments over it because I get frustrated and angry, but somehow we always get back together. I also have become very close to his sister. He is my age and pretty tall. He does a lot of affectionate things for me and has a lot of patience and respect. Think what you would like to know and ask it without saying that he is “not enough this or that” and without telling him how this hurts your ego. He never really gave an answer. Yes, this whole time he did have GF. He brought us up to become gf/bf again & I didn’t accept right away. You can try and wait it out and be there for him when he gets dissapointed again by his ex. My friend told me I should spill my feelings but I am hesitant to because I am more confident in him not feeling the same way. Advice? Patience, everything happens exactly how and when it needs to happen, and for the best. Now it has been three days without any message or call. So, at first you were o.k with him having a girlfirend, and now you’re not. He has told you that he needs time to see where this is going. You broke up for a reason & I don’t want that cycle to be a reoccurring factor. The fact that you meet him all the time would be a great chance to take some distance (by taking those steps you thought of) – while keeping enough in touch with him to stay on his mind. We had the talk a couple times and his answer is always the same he doesn’t want to have a formal relationship. So there has been a twist in my love life. We’ve managed to get into a fwb sort of. He has only had a few serious relationships in his life and they weren’t that brilliant from the sounds of them. We then had a talk and have again set rules again that we shall not be seen in public much like we used too, that we shall meet when there is no possibility of his friends coming over and that we shall not spend so much time together, although we do text very frequently. I am invited as a judge for an Exhibition for Std XI(Computer Science). Im so clueless help!!! He won’t be able to avoid you forever. Do You Feel Comfortable with the FWB Rules and Boundaries? Yet he can text me asking me if I still have some items at my house he needs. I feel like the lines are blurred and quite frankly I don’t know how to handle the situation.. I’m new to this whole friends with benefits thing so I’m not exactly sure where we stand right now. Vacation, I haven’t responded nor has he reached out to follow up with me.. To be honest I don’t really know what I want.. And being with him hurting me also as i always think this may be the last night or for sure couple of months he will back to his country for good , also i think he will find a nice girl soon and stop talking to me. I recently developed a fwb relationship with a new friend from my college class. I currently have a FWB situation but we were dating up until a month ago when he had stuff going on and said he wasn’t ready to commit at the moment. I’m not overbearing, not needy and have realized my flaws that I pay close attentuon to. 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