I checked this book out of the library after hearing David Sheff and his son Nick interviewed on NPR. Sometimes the picture the author paints of his son seems a little whiter than white, both before and during his battle with addiction (in the periods when Nic is sober and sane) which, for me, detracted from the tale. As you can imagine, Goodreads editors are voracious readers and there's nothing we like more than talking shop.... To see what your friends thought of this book. I read this after watching the grueling and heartbreaking movie of the same name. He does a good jo. About the Author . David Sheff didn't miss a single experience of having a drug-addicted son. David is depressed. Oh boy, this was not an easy book to read, but I won't be quick to forget it either. I want to light this book on fire, then stab out the chunks of my brain that remember this book. One of the best books dealing with addiction I've ever read. The book title comes from the 1980 John Lennon song "Beautiful Boy (Darling Boy)." An old friend of mine read it while he was in juvie, that's how I first heard about it. It makes you laugh and cry. This was an amazing, touching book told from the other side of addiction - a side not heard very often - the side of a parent watching their child slowly spiral out of control due to addiction. David reads about it, asks questions, studies new and old treatment, loses sleep, abandons himself of loved ones, sets apart his life over and over again. His writing has appeared in the New York Times, the New York Times Magazine, Rolling Stone, Playboy, Wired, and many other publications. Reviewed in the United States on May 21, 2019. Beautiful Boy David Sheff 57-page comprehensive study guide Features detailed chapter by chapter summaries and multiple sections of expert analysis ... Sheff’s struggle to overcome his codependent addiction to Nic’s addiction is one of the key themes of the book. I've seldom been quite so thrilled for a book to be finished, not least of all because this author is one of the most hideously self-obsessed and self-congratulatory people I've ever had the displeasure to spend way too much virtual time with. Beautiful Boy is a great read, a horror story, and great reference material. "It's better to fade away like an old soldier than to burn out, " he said. Sheff tells a moving, though deeply unsettling account of his son's drug addiction, how he as a father coped with it, and how it affected his family. This book will save a lot of lives and heal a lot of hearts.” — Anne Lamott “‘When one of us tells the truth, he makes it easier for all of us to open our hearts to our own pain and that of others.’ That’s ultimately what Beautiful Boy is about: truth and healing.” — Mary Pipher, author of Reviving Ophelia I only want you to read the book. We’d love your help. After I read Beautiful Boy, I was really freaked out about the accessibility of drugs, and the father made it seem as if everyone in the world will eventually try drugs at least once in their life and that all kids are experimenting no matter if they've been told that it's bad or not. The early chapters of Beautiful Boy are largely spent detailing Nic’s promise and innocence, and David’s early understanding of parenthood and how to navigate it. Beautiful Boy was a book written by David Sheff about his son struggling with addiction. Prime members enjoy FREE Delivery and exclusive access to music, movies, TV shows, original audio series, and Kindle books. In the film, directed by Felix van Groeningen, young Nic is a happy, intuitive squirt … Beautiful Boy, is probably a book I wouldn’t have picked up to read on my own. Beautiful Boy is a fiercely candid memoir that brings immediacy to the emotional rollercoaster of loving a child who seems beyond help. Refresh and try again. This story of a talented, golden child, athletic, clever, dearly loved but addicted, told from his father's perspective is compelling searching and moving in the extreme. How to we love our kids and hate what they do to themselves and to us? Sheff and his wife Vicki are overjoyed when they have their son, Nic. Plus, I don't think the author actually ever gets what he could have done to speed up his kid's coming to grips with addiction. The point Sheff got across was just how hard it is to help someone with addiction, how draining it is. In 2009, Sheff was included in Time Magazine ' s Time 100, The World's Most Influential People, and Beautiful Boy was named the best nonfiction book of the year by Entertainment Weekly. I recommend this book to anyone that loves someone, friend or family that lives with addiction. Sometimes there is the undercurrent that if Nic hadn't been stricken with the affliction of addiction the he would have cured cancer and brought peace to the Middle East. Please try again. Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Meth Addiction Read this Web-Exclusive Book Review by Jesse Kornbluth. I asked him about this sentiment, one that pervades rock and roll. The first, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction, was written by David Sheff, and … It's a disease; it's not their fault... but they're the only ones who can control it. Instead, our system considers things like how recent a review is and if the reviewer bought the item on Amazon. Beautiful Boy is a fiercely candid memoir that brings immediacy to the emotional rollercoaster of loving a child who seems beyond help. Beautiful Boy Report Beautiful Boy: A Father’s Journey Through His Son’s Addiction is a best selling book written by a famous journalist David Sheff. Drug and alcohol addiction is an un-biased monster. Published in 2008, David Sheff’s memoir, Beautiful Boy, explores his experiences of coming to terms with his son’s addiction to methamphetamine. Reviewed in the United Kingdom on July 31, 2019. There was a problem loading your book clubs. Just a moment while we sign you in to your Goodreads account. This is in the father's perspective. How do you love someone unconditionally yet find that they don’t love you the same way? This is a cautionary tale for parents. But I really believe it's harmful over-ind. Settled in picturesque Marin County, California, Nic’s parents were the high-flying type. I'll need a while to really digest Beautiful Boy, but I do want to read the son's account, (Tweak by Nic Sheff), to try to understand the experience from his view. It is the story of a father watching his child destroy himself and the havoc that wreaks on the family he comes from. I've had this book for a year before I could bring myself to read it. Bring your club to Amazon Book Clubs, start a new book club and invite your friends to join, or find a club that’s right for you for free. burn this book to ashes, then burn the ashes. Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read. Now I'm off to listen to the son's account because I crave more torture, apparently. The same things that make me consider this book "just okay" (the repetition of themes, the over-dramaticism, the self-absorption) are the same things that make it so realistic and relatable to anyone who's had with an addict in their lives. Let me also add that after the divorce David Sheff regularly took Nick to adult parties and dinner parties, treating him like a "friend." Please try your request again later. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required. Thank you David for being so honest and truthful and for having the strength to look at yourself so bravely and share with us all. But I really believe it's harmful over-indulgence to so glorify our kids' importance and intelligence. Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction is a memoir by David Sheff that describes how his family dealt with his son Nic's methamphetamine addiction. It is the story of a father watching his child destroy himself and the havoc that wreaks on the family he comes from. It also analyzes reviews to verify trustworthiness. I am making an exception and breaking one of my own rules. This is a very honest and raw account of the manner in which lives are turned upside down, ruined to some extent, and the depths of despair that accompany this when a member of the family becomes a drug addict with no reasoning. We work hard to protect your security and privacy. He makes himself physically sick. His writing has appeared in the New York Times, the New York Times Magazine, Rolling Stone, Playboy, Wired, and many other publications. No wonder the son became a lying, stealing, self-absorbed addict who took multiple rehabs to kick a habit. Let us know what’s wrong with this preview of, Published With over two hundred images drawn from the whole history of Western art, illustrating the vicissitudes of the beautiful male, as toy boy, virgin soldier, naked martyr or winged genius, angel or seducer, narcissist or worshipper, we are invited to appreciate boys in all their sensuality, spontaneity and vulnerability. It is so so good. LitCharts makes it easy to find quotes by chapter, character, and theme. DAVID SHEFF is the author of several books, including the #1 New York Times best-selling memoir Beautiful Boy. There's a problem loading this menu right now. Yet as childhood exuberance faded into teenage angst, the precocious boy found himself … Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction, Mariner Books; First edition (January 6, 2009), Reviewed in the United States on March 28, 2016. "I worship people who survive. I changed my rating from a 5 to a 4 after I read Tweak however. Why did I do this to myself?! Sheff didn't miss a fucking beat. "Hurry up and read the book, Beautiful Boy," the email from my mother read. He was not telling the entire story about his son however. I felt such deep sympathy for both the father and the son, all the while being so frustrated by Nic's perpetual relapses. Gonna be searching for it out there in the stores eg: Walmart, Target and Barnes and Noble. I'll be thinking about this book for some time to come and definitely recommend it. The strength it would take to throw your mess out to the wolves hoping it could help a few lost sheep is awesome. David, a well-known journalist, interviewed celebrities like Steve Jobs and John Lennon for Rolling Stone. Our payment security system encrypts your information during transmission. We assign a color and icon like this one to each theme, making it easy to track which themes apply to each quote below. I was so engrossed in this memoir. I found this book annoying and unrevealing (for a memoir) and yet I couldn't put it down. garbage. I don't know whether or not you have to be a parent to be moved by it, but I feel his pain. by Mariner Books, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Meth Addiction. He also presents a lot of research on crystal meth and its effects on users. Beautiful Boy a revelation. A memoir may be an author's recollection of past events but is David Sheff really that clueless about the effects of his own behavior on his son beyond the obvious? So here is a sad, beautiful book about a father who loves his son so much but he was struggling with drug addiction. Unable to add item to List. Of course, in order to make the book longer we get lectured on how difficult it is to stop, and all the data and opinions that allow this father to think he was not responsible. A father's account of his son's addiction to meth (among other things), but there's so much in here that's familiar to anyone who's known someone addicted to anything. Your recently viewed items and featured recommendations, Select the department you want to search in, No Import Fees Deposit & $9.54 Shipping to Netherlands. I know. I understand that drug addiction has its ups and downs, much like this book, and I understand it's a true account, but somewhere near the middle I really didn't care about Nic's story anymore. Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. I am again filled with sadness for all of them. This detailed literature summary also contains Topics for Discussion on Beautiful Boy by David Sheff. Son Nic Sheff's perspective was told in his own memoir Tweak: Growing Up on Methamphetamines, published concurrently by an imprint of Simon & Schuster. I've seldom been quite so thrilled for a book to be finished, not least of all because this author is one of the most hideously self-obsessed and self-congratulatory people I've ever had the displeasure to spend way too much virtual time with. A self serving dribble of a book. Nic Sheff is an amazing person, he had overcome a lot. Let's talk books, shall we? This is a book full of numerous examples of how over-idealization of a son by his father can cause as many problems as insufficient attention paid to the child. I was so engrossed in this memoir. Top subscription boxes – right to your door, © 1996-2020, Amazon.com, Inc. or its affiliates. When I was released from jail one year ago, I decided to read Tweak. I am not sure if I exactly enjoyed reading it, I stopped and started, Reviewed in the United Kingdom on January 16, 2019. Beautiful Boy is based on a book — two books, actually. To me this son's supposed brillance came off sounding smart-alecky and self-important. Sheff interviewed John Lennon and Yoko Ono in September 1980, roughly three months before Lennon's murder. Is there another version of this book, from the boy's perspective? Beautiful Boy is an important book. But, as an assigned reading for Drug/Health Class I am taking through PSU, it definitely opened my eyes to the constant battles faced by both parent and addict with dealing with an addiction. "They made a movie out of it, starring Steve Carrell. After I read Beautiful Boy, I was really freaked out about the accessibility of drugs, and the father made it seem as if everyone in the world will eventually try drugs at least once in their life. Beautiful Boy A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction (Book) : Sheff, David : #1 New York Times bestseller With a new afterword Now a Major Motion Picture Starring Steve Carell * Timothée Chalamet * Maura Tierney * and Amy Ryan A brilliant, harrowing, heartbreaking, fascinating story, full of beautiful moments and hard-won wisdom. It’s awful of me to say these things, but my initial positive reaction to this book is hampered by the fact that it’s essentially about a severely addicted individual, who grew up in, and has maintained even after sobriety, a life of privilege. David Sheff's story is a first: a teenager's addiction from the parent's point of view, a real-time chronicle of the shocking descent into substance abuse and the gradual emergence into hope. Well, the rehab/relapse cycle is, uhhh, cyclical, which means that *you probably shouldn't write an interminable chronological account of it*. After viewing product detail pages, look here to find an easy way to navigate back to pages you are interested in. Praise for Beautiful Boy:- 'A brilliant, harrowing, heartbreaking, fascinating story, full of beautiful moments and hard-won wisdom. The dad was a master enabler to the son's detriment. A tough read, an easy read. I am reading it now and feel like I'm living it with this father. Hmmm... so close to to four stars. And he suffered from the guilt of letting his family down. If you want to read his son's perspective read Tweak. Our daughter said this book is so good. Before meth, Sheff's son, Nic, was a varsity athlete, honor student, and award-winning journalist. Nic Sheff spent the better part of a decade in and out of rehab, fighting to overcome a crystal meth addiction. Welcome back. For the first three years, they live a happy, contented life, providing Nic with everything he needs. It affects all walks of life. That said, the descriptions of the insidiousness of addiction and the monstrous effect it has on the addict and the how the poison from the fallout seeps into the family are intense, harrowing and moving. The same things that make me consider this book "just okay" (the repetition of themes, the over-dramaticism, the self-absorption) are the same things that make it so realistic and relatable to anyone who's had with an addict in their lives. "Hey, I dig Nirvana! Not my story but close enough. The book also won the Barnes & Noble "Discover Great New Writers Award" for nonfiction and was an Amazon Best Book of the Year (2008). I regret putting it off so long. So much of his horrifying journey struck a chord or a memory. I'll take the living and the healthy.”, “An alcoholic will steal your wallet and lie to you. David Sheff knows all too well what must be endured with faith, and his extraordinary book describes it better than anything else I’ve read. I found this book annoying and unrevealing (for a memoir) and yet I couldn't put it down. To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number. It would have been better if the author had really acknowledged that. It pulses with the unconditional love of a father in a way that makes me admire him and the guts it took to tell this story. The preliminary version of “Beautiful Boy” was a tough 2005 article in The New York Times Magazine, “My Addicted Son.” In expanding it into a book … September 4th 2018 I feel for all of these ‘beautiful children’ and the families who love them. The father is a great writer, and he did a great job making me feel as if I was going through the experience with him. No quick fixes, no answers, no miracles on this journey, but hope and love in a world that often reads as idyllic a place for children to be reared but pernicious drugs easily accessed hover as temptation in paradise. Tweak was relatable to me, and so was We All Fall Down. What I learned from this book? This is a cautionary tale for parents. 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